When two supposedly mature adults get a divorce and there are children involved, for some reason beyond me, the Daddies seem to ‘divorce’ the children too. The children had nothing to do with the divorce usually. I’m sure that the children are sometimes a contributing factor, like the mother pays more attention to the children than they do the father but is that a reason for divorce? I don’t think so. Sometimes the children have to come first. I do think every married couple needs to take time for each other.
I know of a couple that got a divorce and had it put in the divorce papers that they had to live in the same school district so they could share custody. It worked great for the children. In fact, they lived on the same block and even had cook outs together for the kids. This is an example of two mature adults that put their children first even though they couldn’t get along as a married couple. Both have remarried and the two couples are more or less, friends now. Those are some lucky children because they know both of their parents love them as well as their step-parents too.
Then there are the Daddies like mine that just run off, start a new family and could care less about the children he left behind. No child support, no visitation, nothing at all from the one man in our lives that’s supposed to protect and love us. That’s far too common because I’m not the only one I know who’s Daddy pulled that kind of crap.
My mother just came in with tears in her eyes and said that one of her favorite comedians from when she was a teenager had died Sunday. His name is George Carlin. I have watched him on TV with Mom and he was too funny. I loved the way he played with words like he did. I loved the ‘7 words’ you can’t say on TV. That was hilarious and of course, Mom didn’t let me hear that one until a couple years ago. She said I still had tender ears. What she didn’t know is I hear worse than that every day at school. What she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her (or me either LOL!!!).
You’ll never guess what came in the mail yesterday. Mom kinda hid it from me until she decided if she should give it to me or not. It’s a ‘Happy Graduation’ card from of all people, my father. Oh he was sweet enough to put a Visa gift card in it that he said he can reload for me when I need money. Sure he will. Just like he has paid child support the past several years I guess. I should be glad that he at least realized I’m old enough to graduate and remembered but he shouldn’t have come. I am hurt, I am angry, I want my Daddy to be my Daddy again but I don’t see that happening because I just don’t think I can trust him anymore. I bet that’s got a lot to do with why I have a hard time trusting my boyfriends too. Life just isn’t fair sometimes and a girl is supposed to have her Daddy there to assure her that it’ll be okay. If mine was here, that would only reassure me that it’s not going to be okay!!! Let him reassure his new family and just leave me the heck alone.
I have been getting so much attention lately that I think poor Kayla thought we forgot all about her birthday. Well we got her good. We had a surprise birthday party for her at the skating rink. She’s 12 today. She starts middle school next year and I just can’t believe it. Mom got her an Ipod for her birthday and I got her some really cute clothes. She’s crazy about Hanna Montana so that’s what I got her was some Hanana Montana outfits. I had to make sure she felt special too. Isn’t that what big sisters are for?
Now I get it. It’s Fathers Day and he’s only fishing for one of those cards that says ‘To my loving father who was always there for me’ bull crap. Well he won’t get one. In fact he won’t get a card, call or visit at all. I don’t even know where he lives anyway and could care less. He wasn’t even man enough to put a return address on the graduation card he sent me so that tells me he doesn’t want me over there at all. Probably afraid I might show up and give him a piece of my mind.
All those card companies are missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime. They need to make some honest cards that say something more like ‘Thanks for nothing but getting me here’ or ‘To my Father who left us for a younger woman only to make a new family and forget all about us’. How about ‘To the crappiest Father ever, glad you’re no longer here’. I bet they would sell a crap load of those cards.
